Never accept anything less than you deserve: When I was let go from my job, there was nothing I wanted more than to end my unemployment party. I was constantly researching companies and going on interviews in hopes that someone would present me an offer. But as badly as I wanted a job, I had to remind myself not to settle for the first offer that came my way. If I’m going to spend 40 hours a week somewhere for at least the next couple of years, I shouldn’t settle for an under-performing company or an unfair salary. Yes, I needed a job, but I also needed a job that I deserved.
Life isn’t a competition: Remind yourself of this when you are scrolling through Instagram and Facebook. Who cares if you don’t have as many Likes or Followers as your friends. Oh, you’re salty because there are three new engagement announcements on your Timeline? And you still don’t have a boyfriend? Stop caring and stop comparing. Learn to be genuinely happy for people. Be patient when you feel like everyone around you is speeding towards victories at a pace you can’t comprehend because when it is your time, you will go even faster.
Nothing will ruin your 20s more than thinking you should have your life together already: Not only should you stop comparing yourself to others, but you also shouldn’t compare where you’re at to where you think you should be. When I graduated, I thought I needed to have my perfect job lined up with a great salary and appealing benefits. Instead, I got a job I hated with a low salary and worked about 60 hours a week with no weekends or holidays off. Although this was far from my dream job, I needed to go through that experience to get to where I am now. I’m still not in a perfect place, but I am very happy and grateful to be where I’m at. Your life is going to take a million twists and turns but I promise you, you will make it from point A to point B.
Non-attachment is a magical thing: Being attached to an outcome takes a lot of energy, not only during the effort but also when the effort is complete. If you are so invested and attached to the idea of a perfect outcome, you’re going to feel disappointed when it doesn’t turn out the way you planned. Being non-attached, however, creates this emotional freedom where disappointment isn’t even an option because whatever the outcome may be, you are already OK with it. The easiest example is relationships. Of course, you should always want it to work out with someone and try your best in the process, but always remember that if it doesn’t work out, everything will be OK. How could it not be? You now have the perfect opportunity to start over and find someone who is a better fit for you.
Every little thing is gonna be alright: Whenever I was upset or mad about something, my dad always used to say “..but is this going to kill you?”[cue the eye roll]. No, Dad. It’s not. And as a typical teenage girl, I hated hearing that. It was such an obvious answer that the lack of empathy felt like an insult. But as I really began to think about his response, I realized he was right. Unless you are quite literally on the edge of death, the situation you are going through is not going to kill you. Instead, think about the worst thing that can happen in every situation and accept it. Usually, the worst is not all that bad once you really analyze what could be. So don’t worry about a thing.